How many dates should a guy call it quits if a women never offers to pay for a date or even a tip? I always say that what you see up front is what you may get in the long run. If the woman never even asks than that shows who they are. If you have been in 3 to 4 dates than it is a good sign of things to come. They obviously feel that it is your responsibility to pay every time. In this day and time this train of thought is out dated. Am I saying that most men will let her pay? Maybe or maybe not. The point is that the woman should at least offer. It is not about being cheap. A man wants to feel as if he counts also. He wants to feel as if the woman at least is not taking advantage of him. It is a fact that first impressions count. I have dates many women and it typically rings true what train of thought a woman has asking to pay versus never asking. Most relationships I have started with was from a women who had asked if she could get the next date or if she could at least get the tip. It is such a great feeling! It shows the overall kindness of the woman. This is the type of woman that I would do anything for because she actually seems to be able to have my best interest at heart. Those who feel entitled and think that is just the way it should be are not the ones for me. People that have certain beliefs are not necessarily bad people. It could be that is the way they were raised or other reasons. Some men like it this way. Different strokes for different folks. A sharing person is the best fit for me.
Sunday, November 15, 2015
Vindictive, Abusive and violent people
I was reading a book called The Sociopath Next Door. It made me understand why there are some people that do some things that they do with no remorse. It's because they lack empathy and they have no feelings. I have had experience with this people. There was one notable person when I was in my 20s. They were manipulative, cold and not many positive vibes except when it came to sex. There was always something in me that said to leave her alone but I made excuses. I always said, well, I need to stop being so picky and improve myself. She use to always tell me that it was me. She would call back to back at my job, leave messages on my personal and work phone cursing me out and trying to make me talk to her during times I was breaking it off. She would show up at my apartment unannounced, tried to run me over with her car and even damaged my vehicle. This girl did grow up in the hood but was in medical school and had a child. Therefore, the sociopath comes from different environments. I decided to really break it off and even got a restraining order. She than went and took one out one on me. She than showed up weeks later and found me going out on a date. She proceeded to yell and tell me to give her back the birthday and Christmas gifts I gave her. My date called the police. She had left before they arrived. On the Monday after the weekend the police called me. The crazy chick had told the police that I had beat her with a weight. No broken bones would have clicked with me but not the great macomb police department. They pretty much tried to railroad me in court. They made her come to court as she would not show up. She told them in court that I did not do anything. They did not care. Thank God it turned out positive in the long run. Why am I writing this?
I received a question from a friend who asked what they should do in a violent situation. Also because I wish for those who see signs of a woman or man with issues to RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. It is not worth guessing. They will attempt to destroy your life and/or take away your self esteem. Do not try to figure them out. If an inner voice says that the situation is not right than LISTEN. It is not worth being with a person and finding out after it is too late that you should have. Mental and physical violence happens mostly to women but it also occurs with men as well. Manipulative, non emotional and non caring people come in all shades, colors and cultures. Do yourself a favor when you see the signs.....LEAVE AND DON'T LOOK BACK. Do not make excuses for these types of people. Especially in instances of violence. Signs are manipulating, telling you that you coukd not find anyone else, keeping you away from your family, ANY kind of violence. If they hit you once they will hit you again. If they call you condescending names than that is also a sign. I truly hope this helps someone. After all, it is your life.
Saturday, November 7, 2015
Paying for dates
It’s the ONE question every guy ends up asking himself.
Is it better to pay for dates in the hopes of winning “points” with women?
Or is it better to let the woman pay for dates instead?
This is one area of dating and seduction that I struggled with for a very long time and could not find the answer to until…
I decided to do my own field testing and discovered the solution to this dating question that has left so many men puzzled and speechless.
In this post, I will explain why you should NOT pay for dates, and how not paying for dates with allow you to attract and seduce much hotter women.
Should Men Pay For Dates?
This is where many feminists will begin saying that it should be the man’s job to pay for a date and that not paying for a date is classless and not being a gentleman.
There’s a couple of things wrong with this baseless assertion that so many women attempt to make:
Women paying for a date does make things more fair for both men (and women). If girls want to have the ability to earn as much as us, receive the same high paying jobs as us men, then why should women be relinquished from paying for dates?
The point is, women complaining about men not paying for a date completely contradicts their earlier statements about things being more “fair” and “equal”.
Things are only “fair” and “equal” when both the man and the woman pay for dates (or split the bill).
Let’s continue dissecting some other complaints that most women have about men not paying for dates…
Not Paying For Dates Is Not Being A Gentleman…
Here’s another complaint and statement that a lot of women love to make. If you don’t pay for a date, then you’re not a gentleman.
While paying for a first date might be the more “nicer” thing to do, it usually ends up backfiring for the guy “hoping” to get “lucky”.
First, it ends up placing an extreme amount of pressure and burden on the woman to “return” the favor which ends up usually sabotaging the rest of the date because the guy turns a simple first date into a serious romance dinner.
And that’s the big reason why you should NOT pay for dates. You paying for a date gives a woman the “false” impression that you are trying to “impress” her, buy her attention, and “buy” your way into her “pants”.
By paying for a date, what you’re really implying and subcommunicating is that “I’m not good enough to attract and seduce women unless I have money and “buy” for things for a girl”.
When you pay for dates, it implies that she is the “Prize” to be won over in the interaction and not you.
There’s one more very important reason why paying for dates is a very bad thing to do…
It Prevents Women From Sleeping With You Fast, Which Usually Means That They Don’t End Up Sleeping With You At All.
Paying for the date subcommunicates to a woman to take things slow with you and to “play hard to get”.
Your “actions” of paying for the date tells women that you are looking for a serious relationship so they can’t have you view them as “easy to get” or being a “slut”. They’ve got to “measure up” to your “expectations” of how you view them.
Unless your goal is to get a wife or date a woman who will force you to wait 7 or 8 dates before going to bed with you, I’d advise you not to pay for dates.
Stop paying for dates, it kills your chances ofever sleeping with the women you most want.
But if paying for a date doesn’t work, what can you do instead?
Stop Paying For Dates, Start Taking Women To Bed…
When you stop paying for dates and instead let women pay for you, you completely reverse the dating roles.
By letting women pay for dates, you subcommunicate to her that you are the “Prize” to be won over and that she is trying to “buy” her way into your pants.
But there’s another more important reason why you should let women pay for dates instead of you:
You get her more invested in you, which causes her to become more ATTRACTED to you.
Think about it, the things we as human beings value most are those things which we have to work for, and by a woman paying for a date she is investing (her money) into an interaction with you.
In other words she is putting more skin in the game, while you appear to be the person she is trying to please and seduce.
And, women will go to bed with you a lot more faster when they pay for dates instead of you.
Stop Paying For Dates, it sabotages your chances of ever sleeping with a woman and instead let women pay for (and try to impress) you.
So consider this post a simple wake-up call and the next time that you’re out on a date with a woman and the bill comes, simply let her pay the bill and hopefully by her doing so, she might just get “lucky”.
– Malcolm Thomas
Is it better to pay for dates in the hopes of winning “points” with women?
Or is it better to let the woman pay for dates instead?
This is one area of dating and seduction that I struggled with for a very long time and could not find the answer to until…
I decided to do my own field testing and discovered the solution to this dating question that has left so many men puzzled and speechless.
In this post, I will explain why you should NOT pay for dates, and how not paying for dates with allow you to attract and seduce much hotter women.
Should Men Pay For Dates?
This is where many feminists will begin saying that it should be the man’s job to pay for a date and that not paying for a date is classless and not being a gentleman.
There’s a couple of things wrong with this baseless assertion that so many women attempt to make:
- Women constantly fight for equality, women’s rights, and say that things should be more “equal” and “fair”.
Women paying for a date does make things more fair for both men (and women). If girls want to have the ability to earn as much as us, receive the same high paying jobs as us men, then why should women be relinquished from paying for dates?
The point is, women complaining about men not paying for a date completely contradicts their earlier statements about things being more “fair” and “equal”.
Things are only “fair” and “equal” when both the man and the woman pay for dates (or split the bill).
Let’s continue dissecting some other complaints that most women have about men not paying for dates…
Not Paying For Dates Is Not Being A Gentleman…
Here’s another complaint and statement that a lot of women love to make. If you don’t pay for a date, then you’re not a gentleman.
While paying for a first date might be the more “nicer” thing to do, it usually ends up backfiring for the guy “hoping” to get “lucky”.
First, it ends up placing an extreme amount of pressure and burden on the woman to “return” the favor which ends up usually sabotaging the rest of the date because the guy turns a simple first date into a serious romance dinner.
And that’s the big reason why you should NOT pay for dates. You paying for a date gives a woman the “false” impression that you are trying to “impress” her, buy her attention, and “buy” your way into her “pants”.
By paying for a date, what you’re really implying and subcommunicating is that “I’m not good enough to attract and seduce women unless I have money and “buy” for things for a girl”.
When you pay for dates, it implies that she is the “Prize” to be won over in the interaction and not you.
There’s one more very important reason why paying for dates is a very bad thing to do…
It Prevents Women From Sleeping With You Fast, Which Usually Means That They Don’t End Up Sleeping With You At All.
Paying for the date subcommunicates to a woman to take things slow with you and to “play hard to get”.
Your “actions” of paying for the date tells women that you are looking for a serious relationship so they can’t have you view them as “easy to get” or being a “slut”. They’ve got to “measure up” to your “expectations” of how you view them.
Unless your goal is to get a wife or date a woman who will force you to wait 7 or 8 dates before going to bed with you, I’d advise you not to pay for dates.
Stop paying for dates, it kills your chances ofever sleeping with the women you most want.
But if paying for a date doesn’t work, what can you do instead?
Stop Paying For Dates, Start Taking Women To Bed…
When you stop paying for dates and instead let women pay for you, you completely reverse the dating roles.
By letting women pay for dates, you subcommunicate to her that you are the “Prize” to be won over and that she is trying to “buy” her way into your pants.
But there’s another more important reason why you should let women pay for dates instead of you:
You get her more invested in you, which causes her to become more ATTRACTED to you.
Think about it, the things we as human beings value most are those things which we have to work for, and by a woman paying for a date she is investing (her money) into an interaction with you.
In other words she is putting more skin in the game, while you appear to be the person she is trying to please and seduce.
And, women will go to bed with you a lot more faster when they pay for dates instead of you.
Stop Paying For Dates, it sabotages your chances of ever sleeping with a woman and instead let women pay for (and try to impress) you.
So consider this post a simple wake-up call and the next time that you’re out on a date with a woman and the bill comes, simply let her pay the bill and hopefully by her doing so, she might just get “lucky”.
– Malcolm Thomas
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